Category Archives: Behavior Management

Two kids at school, who to pick up first?


Happy Friday! It’s B again. I have many children in my class that have older siblings in the school. So which child should you pick up first? I have noticed that starting with the youngest and working your way up seems to work best. I have had a few parents that collect their oldest first then come to my class to get their toddler. Their older child then goes to play with all of our toys (sometimes breaking them), tries to hug or pick up the other children, climb on our furniture, in general, wreck havoc on the classroom while the parent is trying to talk to me about their child’s day and deal with a tired toddler. I, then have to try to minimize the chaos from the older child, with him knowing that I’m not his teacher. Ugg. Parent is then at the door with the toddler waiting for the older child to decide that his is ready to leave his sibling’s class. Now the rest of the children are all riled up when they were playing quietly and calmly before the invasion.

Now a less chaotic way would be to pick up the youngest first. You can easily talk to the teacher while getting your child ready to leave. The teacher will be able to talk to you much easier, as well. Then you can go pick up you older child while holding the younger. You can teach your older child to collect his belongings and get himself ready to leave. And all with much less chaos.

Hope you have a chaos-free weekend!

*~* B *~*


Don’t Blame the Messenger… Please!


L here for my first post! And it’s all about those dreaded Accident/Bite Reports that no one EVER likes to fill out or read… Accidents happen, as does biting with the younger age groups and it is a lucky parent who never has to sign the form! We teachers especially don’t like having to inform parents why/how their child got hurt/bit or did the hurting/biting, especially closing teachers/floaters who were not witness to any of it. I have almost always been a closing teacher, and so have shown a LOT of forms to parents, some of whom are not even in my class and it never gets any easier, especially when I know that parent gets easily annoyed. Please keep in mind it is a part of the “un-fun” side of our job; know that we try to keep each child safe but getting hurt is part of growing up and learning how to interact with their physical world. Thank you!

The Dreaded Drop-off


So no one really wants to leave their child in the care of someone else while they go of to work, but for many families, it is a necessity. So what can you as a parent do to help make the best of those morning drop-off?

First off, put down that phone! Give 100% of your attention to your child for the few minutes you have left with him. Nothing is so important that it can’t wait until you get back in the car. I have seem so many melt-downs in hallways, parking lots, doorways, etc. all because the parent is on the phone with the office and not listening to what their child is trying to tell them. And whoever is on the other end of that phone call probably can’t hear anything the parent is saying over the screaming child anyway! Not worth it!

Second, talk with your child on the way to school about who she wants to play with and what toys she will want to play with. Ask her questions about what she thinks will happen that day at school. Even if your child still isn’t talking yet, hearing her friends and teachers names will help get her excited about the new school day.

Third, start letting your child walk into the building and down the hall to his classroom as soon as he is walking steadily. This gives him a sense of importance and that you are proud of him. He will enter the classroom at toy and friend level rather than way up in your arms far away from his friends and all the toys.

Fourth, don’t linger. Keep it as quick as possible. Pass on any important information to her teacher, tell you child to have a great day and that you will be back later and leave. Don’t stay behind the door or around a corner. If you can still see him, he can still see you. If you are concerned about a rough drop-off, call the school and ask about how he is doing. Odds are, he was playing with his buddies before you even made it to the car. Just remember, the longer you stay, the harder you make it for your child and in turn, for his teachers.

But, fifth, if your child had a BM on the way to school, at least offer to change her diaper. Most likely, her teacher will gladly change her for you so you can go on to work. But if the class is outside, depending on how many children and teachers are present, it many not be possible for a teacher to leave the playground due to ratios.

Ok, that’s all for now! Hope tomorrow is fabulous!

*~* B *~*